There have been a couple of diverging paths that has lead me to this blog post. The first is recently I read Simon Sinek’s book Start with Why which pushed me to define my reason and my platform of sharing my research, experiences, and ideas with you. Secondly Mark Zuckerberg’s letter to his daughter about leaving the world a better place than it has been for him. I am not a Harvard graduate, obviously. Nor do I have 45 billion dollars to donate. What I do have are experiences and lessons learned through baseball. From being a youth player to a standout high school player, a division 1 player, getting drafted, playing professionally, coaching, scouting, now mentoring and teaching have all help me to arrive at a set of 10 values and principles. These concepts are not perfect, but they are the beginning of my why. It’s my first draft that will continue to change and evolve with gained knowledge and experiences. I stole a page from Tim Grover in numbering them all number 1 because to me they all have equal value and relevance. It’s titled Dreams for my Children…..And Yours Too. Here Goes.
#1 If you want something in life you have to work for it. Like Charlie Munger says, to get what you want you have to deserve what you want, the world isn’t a crazy enough place to reward a bunch of undeserving people. Hard work is always the answer. If there is a decision in the easy way and the hard way rest assured the hard road goes farther. Anything worth having or doing will not be easy.
#1 If you can create and problem solve you will always be hirable in any job. The world has plenty of people that can recognize problems or issues. There aren’t enough people willing to step out and try to fix them
#1 The world doesn’t owe you anything. No one cares for you as much as you care for yourself, and no one will look out for you the way your mother and I have. To think people will always act in your best interest is both foolish and irresponsible. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Feelings are choices. Excuses and blame are worthless.
#1 When facing opposing opinions alway choose curiosity. The world isn’t as black and white as people want to think or believe. School will fail you in this, leading you to believe that there is a right and wrong answer to everything. Life doesn’t have grades attached nor does it come with a participation medal. You either affected change or you didn’t.
#1 Don’t be afraid to take risks and fail. Some failure will be small, some will not be so small. In the end, the ultimate failure will be not learning from it. Failure is not final, but neither is success. Come to expect both and buckle up for the ride.
#1 Winning the war against your own human nature. You will want to be lazy, selfish, self-centered. You will want to complain and make excuses. You weren’t born that way, but you have been programmed that way by society. Resist these urges and you will find yourself on the narrow path to the top. There’s a fine line in excuses and reasons, but don’t dance on the line.
#1 Don’t be afraid to think outside the box. But when you get out there don’t expect to turn around and see everyone there with you. They will come eventually if you affect enough lives in a positive way.
#1 Stay hungry. Stay Foolish -Steve Jobs
#1 Relationships matter. Actually they are the only thing that matters. They are the turntable to which the world goes around and around. Kindness, gratitude, appreciation, and compassion towards others will get you everything you want in life. Here is the secret; it has to be genuine and you have to mean it. Because the world will figure you out if it’s narcissistic.
#1 You cannot achieve anything you put your mind too. Find your passion, and figure out what you love and pursue it. Don’t spend time improving your weaknesses, forget them and focus solely on amplifying your strengths. You will still suffer setbacks and even small failures, but you will be much more inclined to battle through the struggle for something that really matters to you. But be careful because like Peter Drucker says “Most people think they know what they’re good at. They are usually wrong. More often, people know what they’re not good at — and even then more people are wrong than right.”
Baseball allows me to share this platform. Yes, I can talk about hitting, pitching, and situational baseball, but it all opens the door for my real platform and my attempt to affect change for my own children and for their peers. I challenge you to your why. You have a great opportunity to affect change not only for my children (2 and 4 years old) but for their generation..